The Rock

Posted by The Wizzle | Posted on Tuesday, November 8, 2011 at 1:49 PM


This post isn't about spanking, or yelling, or any specific discipline method. It's just a story about parents and children that I read today, and it hit me really hard.

It made me really pause, and think, and want to just take a moment and breathe one extra breath so I can decide what I really want to do and say to my children, instead of just reacting, and lashing out from behind the 8-ball (where we always seem to be, yes?)

It was so powerful to me that I wanted to share it, and this seemed like the best forum.

"When I was about twenty years old, I met an old pastor's wife who told me that when she was young and had her first child, she didn't believe in striking children, although spanking kids with a switch pulled from a tree was standard punishment at the time.

But one day when her son was four or five, he did something that she felt warranted a spanking--the first in his life. And she told him he would have to go outside and find a switch for her to hit him with. The boy was gone a long time. And when he came back in, he was crying. He said to her, 'Mama, I couldn't find a switch, but here's a rock you can throw at me.'

All of the sudden a mother understood how the situation felt from the child's point of view: that if my mother wants to hurt me, it makes no difference what she does it with; she might as well do it with a stone. The mother took the boy onto her lap and they both cried. Then she laid the rock on a shelf in the kitchen to remind herself forever: never violence. Because violence begins in the nursery--one can raise children into violence."

~From a peace prize acceptance speech given by Astrid Lindgren, author of Pippi Longstocking

Comments (7)

Pretty powerful! I like that she put the rock on the shelf as a constant reminder of that experience.

Wow. That's powerful.

Thanks for posting that today. I think you were inspired, if only for my benefit.

Definitely not just for your benefit! <3 This was definitely inspired for me today.

And "runningfan", I kind of want a rock in every room in my house now. I think it might take that much to keep this present in my mind all the times that I will need it!

Very thought provoking and touching. Thanks for sharing.

Very thought provoking and touching. Thanks for sharing.

That pierces one right to the heart. Thank you for sharing.